There are more than fifty tribes in the Philippines, each with distinct, diverse and independent courtship and marriage customs and traditions.
However, a scrutiny of these readily establishes certain incontrovertible features common to all, among which are:
- Courtship is practically non-existent.
- A marital union is always addressed to a pagan god.
- Marriage is generally within the same tribe.
- Women of the tribe usually marry young.
- They are generally monogamous.
- Superstition plays a significant role in the realization of marriage.
- Parental intervention always attends a marriage.
- A marital union is always for and in consideration of a dowry.
- Dowry is meant only for the bride-to-be and held by her parents for safekeeping.
- Dowry is always arranged and delivered before a wedding.
- Dowry casts some form of stigma.
- A wedding takes place shortly after a dowry’s negotiation.
- The brunt of a wedding celebration’s expenses usually falls upon the would-be groom’s parents.
- Lavish and ostentatious celebrations always characterize a marital union.
- The consummation of the sexual act before the wedding ceremony is not subscribed to.
- The sexual act is consummated on the wedding night.
- The price of infidelity or changeable disposition is exacting.
- Divorce disgraces the parties concerned, especially the women.
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Source:
Anima, N. 1975. Courtship and Marriage Practices among Philippine Tribes. La Loma: Omar.
