Your sister/best friend/cousin is getting married and as her long-time confidante, she’s asked you to be her maid of honor. You’re sure to wear a really special dress, but do you know what your duties are?
The maid or matron of honor (if married) serves as the bride’s right-hand (wo)man, her adviser, helper, even slave, if you must. Here are some of the maid of honor’s duties:
Before the wedding:
- Be the leader of the female entourage members — the bridesmaids and flower girls.
- Help the bride in drafting the guest list and addressing the invitations.
- Accompany the bride in sourcing out the wedding suppliers.
- Inform the guests where the couple has set up their bridal registry.
- Host or organize the bridal shower.
- Help organize the rehearsal dinner or despedida de soltera. Make sure that the entourage members are in full attendance.
During the wedding day:
- Make sure that the bridesmaids and flower girls are properly made up and have their bouquets.
- Assist the bride as she prepares in her room.
- Make sure that no wedding accessories are left behind before leaving the house or hotel.
- Fix the bride’s veil, gown, bouquet and train before and during the ceremony. Carry the bride’s purse, if any.
- Assist in the signing of the marriage contract.
At the reception:
- Help welcome and assist the guests to their seats.
- Collect any gift envelopes.
- Make sure the bride eats something at the reception.
- Make a speech honoring the couple. (optional)
- Help the bride change for the honeymoon and pack her bag.
All throughout the preparations, always be the shoulder to cry on, to present a patient ear and assure the bride with warm hugs and soothing words.